“I define connection as the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship.” - Brené Brown
As most of us head into our second or third week of what’s been unfortunately termed social distancing, you may find that being forced to disconnect brings what’s most important into focus. We’re told to remain physically distant, but now is the time to stay even more socially connected. Since the start of our physical isolation, there are many stories of friends and family reconnecting across zip codes and time zones. F.O.M.O. (Fear of Missing Out) no longer has a hold on our social lives, and being forced to hunker down at home means that we have been gifted that time to reconnect. It’s not just meetings and classes that are transitioning to virtual format. It’s dinner parties, dance parties, Passover Seders, Easter dinners, and loads of casual conversations, as well.
This week's practice is a nudge to build and strengthen the relationships that matter to you, which will have an exponential positive effect on the well-being in our world. You’ll also find information on how social connections at home and work affect your health and well-being.
Connect with Two People
Pick two people to build social connection with this week. Make at least one of those two a colleague from work or a peer from your class. Schedule a video chat or phone call, and make space in your calendar to be fully present during your conversation. You could decide to “meet” for lunch or dinner or take a walk together on the phone — whatever will allow you to be together socially. The articles listed in the additional resources section offer other great suggestions for connecting virtually during this time.
Use this form to send us a photo or share a short story of your social connection to feature in an upcoming weekly release.
We are all social beings who need to connect and care. In this time of stress and illness, we need more social support, not less. Even the idle chitchat of close colleagues that we might take for granted in the office has been shown to increase production, job satisfaction, positive emotions, and well-being.
Data suggests that we should have six hours of social time per day to increase well-being and decrease stress and worry. Those six hours can include time at work, home, on the phone or video chat, sending email, or other communication. Each hour of social time decreases our chances of having a bad day. (Gallup, 2010)
Social relationships contribute to our emotional regulation. Friends and family members can cheer us up or soothe our anxiety. Research shows that it’s helpful to have broader social networks with different relationships to turn to for different emotional needs. (Cheung, 2015)
Phone or video chat conversations that are closer to what we experience when in proximity to friends and family can help strengthen connections, but so can “frequent, lightweight contact” such as text messages and sharing links. (The Atlantic, 2020)
Making Connections in the Age of Coronavirus:
The Art of Socializing During a Quarantine: https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2020/03/coronavirus-quarantine-socializing/608020/
The Daily, New York Times Podcast special episode:
The Social Muscle by John T. Cacioppo and Stephanie Cacioppo
Your Friends and Your Social Well-Being:
Quotes on the Well-Being Benefits of Relationships with Friends and Family: https://wellbeing.gmu.edu/articles/11102
March 30, 2020